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Friday, June 3, 2022

Nantucket Beach House Sunset Playlist

I love summer. White linen, languid mornings watering the plants in the garden and days spent by the beach. 

Music is such a part of that whole summer vibe. This playlist, Nantucket Beach House Sunset, will remind you of that perfect summer evening outside with your favorite people around you, cool drinks in hand and laughter hanging in the warm, salty air. 

I hope you enjoy this playlist as much as we do. 

Tuesday, May 31, 2022

And so the summer begins

I love this first weekend of summer. It's just so full of promise. I think of summer mornings in a beach town, with its cool mornings, ponytail, sweatshirt, cardboard cup of coffee in hand. I love the way people in a beach town always say hi or nod or smile as they pass by each other. Is it something in the water or in the air that generally makes people happy or friendlier or more content?

I love that desire to eat clean, simple foods like vegetables fresh from the garden. Oh, that perfect ear of Butter-Sugar corn from the farm-stand, strawberry pancake dinners at the firehouse, languid days sipping sun-brewed tea by the pool. 

This year feels almost normal again. I hope that you feel that sense of excitement for this summer too.

Here's to summer!

Friday, February 25, 2022

waving around the world playlist

I recently did something incredible. I drove across the country with our four year-old daughter, Waverly. One of the best things we did was creating a playlist called Waving Around the World. I asked our friends to contribute their favorite travel songs too, which I added to the playlist. 

I hope you enjoy this travel inspired Spotify playlist and that it inspires you to pursue your wanderlust too. 

Wednesday, October 6, 2021

Because They Need More Love

Earlier this week, I was driving with our toddler when someone flipped me off. The other driver ran a red light, I beeped at them as they came inches from hitting our car. We watched as they angrily motioned at us, beeped back and gave us the finger.

Even at four years-old, our daughter understood the emotion in that moment.  She asked what happened and I told her that the driver was clearly in a hurry and drove through the stoplight when it wasn’t his turn and that he could have hurt himself or us. 

She said “He was mad, wasn’t he?”

“Yes,” I said. “Quite angry.” 

“You know, he was just mad that he almost got into an accident and just wanted to vent his frustration,” I told her,

Waverly was quiet. Then she said “Maybe we was having a bad morning  and just needs more love.”

Maybe he just needed more love.

She was listening.

As she grew and started figuring out her emotions (and others),  we made sure that she understood that she wasn’t responsible for other people’s moods. We told her that sometimes people will be in bad moods but that it wasn’t a reflection on her. I remember a very early conversation with her when she told me that if someone was mean to her that she would be mean back. “I don’t like mean people,” she said.

I realized that in that moment, we could teach her how to handle mean people in a way that would hopefully insulate her feelings against someone else’s bad mojo. I said, “You know, it would feel good in the moment to be mean back but that only hurts you. Maybe they are acting our because they weren’t treated well themselves.”

“Maybe they just need more love,” she said. I loved that. Ever since we had that discussion, that is how we handle other people’s aggressions. Someone wants to be mean? Be mean but that won’t affect us. We’re just going to send back good vibes and step away from the situation. Waverly is so good at this, at keeping her confident, happy bubble around her, regardless of what someone else’s temperament is.  I have been practicing this as well. It works. My first reaction wasn’t to flip the other driver off. Instead, I thought “OK, they’re clearly having a bad day. I hope they drive safely.” It felt good not to throw that negative energy back. It didn’t seep into my mood. It happened and we moved on, safely. This is considerably different than how I previously processed other people’s negative energy. I would take an aggression to heart and run it over in my head. It was fruitless and pointless and left me feeling zapped.

Now though, I know that Waverly is adding to her emotional toolbox and that hopefully flipping someone off won’t ever be a consideration. Rather, an honest “I’m sorry” will be her first reaction and hopefully driving lessons will prevent her from running reds.

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