Monday, November 11, 2019

The Happygirl Essentials: Grove Cleaning Essentials Set

I like tradition and order. I like knowing that when we get into bed on Sunday nights that our sheets will be clean, cool and crisp. I know that there are fresh items from Trader Joe's in our fridge on Saturday morning and that our whole house is vacuumed, swept and cleaned  before we start the work-week on Monday morning.

About two months ago, I was cleaning our bathroom and sprayed a new soap scum foam cleaner on the glass tile walls and marble floor. The side effects of this cleanser started immediately. ,My vision got myopic and when I tried to inhale, it felt like there was no oxygen left in the bathroom. I flung open  the bathroom door and opened our bedroom windows. I stood there, holding onto the window sill and inhaled enormous gulps of cool air. This is when I knew that I couldn't keep using these chemicals in our home.

Before Waverly, I thought  that the stronger a cleaning product smelled, the harder it was working. Ever since she was born, however, I have been trying to shift our household to a more natural state.

I had three non-negotiable requirements for new cleaning products:

1.) They have  to clean as good as the more toxic cleaners
2.) They couldn't leave a film on surfaces
3.) The scents couldn't be overpowering

I purchased some natural cleaners at Target and Whole Foods but they tended to leave  a film on surfaces and I didn't feel like our home was clean. Last week I came across Grove Collaborative products online. One of the concepts I really liked was that some of their products come in small tubes with powerful concentrated ingredients that you add to a spray bottle with water. I liked that I could use one glass  bottle for each cleaning product and just order a tube of concentrate when I was running low.The three pack of concentrated cleansers are $7.95. The set of three coordinating glass and silicone bottles are $34.95.

I bought The Grove Collaborative's Cleaning Essentials Kit in the Orange & Rosemary scent along with the color coordinated glass bottles. The tubes contained an All-Purpose Cleaner, Tube & Tile Cleaner and Glass Cleaner. Over the past few days, I've cleaned our home with these products including our bathroom (tile floors, Carrera marble counters, water closet), kitchen (quartz counters, Carrera marble table, microwave and refrigerator) as well as all of the mirrors and glass in our home.

I had been disappointed by so many different natural clearers in the past few months that my bar was pretty low. However, I can't say enough about these products. There is no film left on surfaces and I love that I am not filling out home with toxic chemicals. The one area I thought might be tough for this new cleaner was the shower but it cleaned the soap scum off the walls, floor and chrome shower head  and fixtures.

And yes, our home smells clean but not in a "Oh, you just cleaned your house!" kind of way but more like "Did you just have an orange? It smells so good in here!" I like that.

*This post is not sponsored. I love these products, They make our home feel happy. I hope it ,makes you happy too. 

Monday, November 4, 2019

in that millisecond

One of my girlfriends is head over heels for a new guy. This weekend she called me and said "When I asked him if he loved me, he paused for a moment before he answered. He does love me, right?"

Two things. If you have to ask, then the answer is probably no. If you don't feel it in your heart, then sorry, it isn't there.  I thought of all of those times when someone paused for that millisecond when asking an important question of a boss, a partner, a child, a friend, a parent. I realized that the answer isn't what they said. The answer was in that fleeting hesitation.

I hate that feeling. You ask your partner, "Do you want to come with me?" Pause. "Yeah, OK," they respond. No, the answer is no, he doesn't want to go with you but in that moment he did the cost benefit analysis of going versus not going and he decided that if he went he wouldn't get pulled into an argument of why you don't do things together anymore. After pouring yourself into a project you present it to your manager and you ask "What do you think?" Pause. "Yeah, yeah. It's good," she says. No, there's a problem but she had to go to another meeting or she didn't want to get into it because you don't handle criticism well.

The thing is, trust your heart, your instincts. You can accept what someone says, keeping things surface level OK or you can ask "Did you want to stay home instead? Are you sick of going out?" or "Do you have some feedback on how we should revise the document?"

To have a real relationship, a partnership whether it's at work or with your family or friends, if your heart is unsettled with an answer, follow it up with a question. Be prepared to not like the answer. Maybe it's too early to know he loves you but wouldn't you rather know he feels like it's too early in the relationship to say it rather than think "Wow. He doesn't love me at all, does he?" It's never good to obsess over what someone else might be thinking. If your heart isn't settled, you can't be happy. Having answers helps you take charge of your life. Follow your instincts. Ask the questions. Without hesitation.

Monday, October 28, 2019

you are amazing

When I was home in Massachusetts, I caught up with a number of my friends and I realize something about them. As I sat across the table sipping margaritas or enjoying blueberry pancakes or walking along the beach, I would just look at them and I would become overwhelmed with the fact that their energy is just so beautiful. Just being in their presence made me happy.

I realize now that I am back in Seattle that I should have told them. I should have looked them in the eye and said this "You have this beautiful energy that people just want to be around." I don't think we tell people enough how amazing we think they are. Do you have these people in your life? Is there a barista who makes you smile every time you see her? Is there a colleague who makes your work life better just by being there? When was the last time you told your child or partner or parent or sibling that you feel lucky to be in their orbit?

If someone makes you feel happy or makes your life easier, let them know. Bounce that positive energy right back at them. Imagine the kind of day it would be, if everyone heard from just one person "You know you're a great person to be around."


Tuesday, October 8, 2019

the people you know

This morning I am missing some of the people I love back home in Massachusetts. I think of them going about their day, in meetings or picking up a coffee or sitting down to dinner with family or friends and I wonder if the people around them know just how lucky that they that. they get to be with them.

Do you ever feel this way? It makes me happy just to know that other people get to be part of their orbit.
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