Monday, January 27, 2020

how to be happy: #2 why it's happening


Last week I had a bad week. BAD. It was the kind of week that felt like I was constantly catching my belt loop on the door handle. You think "Oh, come ON!" Monday was bad and by Friday it was almost laughable because it was just so awful. Nothing life altering, just a multitude of things that were annoying, costly and time consuming. I said to myself so many times "Why is this happening TO me?"

I said it so many times that I started to think about what I was saying.

Why is this happening TO me?

I started to think about the times in my life that had the greatest impact on me, the times when I grew the most, the times that I know contributed to me leading a better life, becoming the person I wanted to be. These moments set in motion things that happened FOR me. Things just happen to a rock on a hillside. Rain, mud may move it downhill but the rock is still just a rock. When things happen in your life that are annoying or just untimely, maybe changing your perspective will allow you to process what happened better. 

I thought about the irritating things that felt like setbacks last week. When I stopped to think about each one, I realized that it could be worse. As I wrote down each thing that contributed to my bad week, I could see that positive things were coming out of the dark space that was the past few days. I could appreciate the circumstances as they unfolded and make decisions not from a place of negativity but rather from a logical place with the belief that I have handled every single thing that has happened in my life and this was relatively easy stuff. 

If you are in a moment where things are just haywire, take a breath, take a step back and believe that this is happening FOR you. You can make the decision to let things happen to you or you can stand tall and take charge of the circumstances, however annoying, dire or negative they may be because after all, you have come out on the other side of every annoying, dire or negative thing that has ever happened to you before. 

It's your choice. 

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